Friday, March 7, 2014


I'm not apologising for not posting for almost a year, but I may use this blog to post my thoughts on life...or not.

 It has just been hard to keep this up when most of my views on everything don't need to be posted under anonymity anymore. Anyhow, I'm still bi, I'm still a student at the that's my update. 

Thursday, March 14, 2013

The truth is...

I hate how society rewards all the nice, overly sweet, fake people in the world. What happened to rewarding being oneself? Nice is -not- a personality trait. It's a state of holding back what's really on one's mind.

*I hate it when I do everything to be part of someone else's lives and they make no effort in return.
*I hate it when people laugh at jokes they don't even think are funny just to fit in.
*I hate it when people don't recognise me and are nothing but jealous of me.
*I hate it when I get shunned because I'm the only one that knows the truth, and is willing to speak it.
*I hate stupid people.
*I hate 99% of society, because they enable this crap. I am the 1% that sees people for what they are: brainless zombies.
*I -love- myself.

Alright, that felt great.

Monday, November 19, 2012


Not a week after I post this image on my Facebook wall, my friend tried to off himself.

Saturday, April 14, 2012

RIP MoHo era (2006-2012)

      'Tis a new beginning that is coming our way. After the smashing success of the BYU panel on Homosexuality and the "It Gets Better" video, there is a sleek, brand-new, mainstream, Mormon-friendly version of LGBT exposure that's rocking the LDS world. Gone are the days of undue secrecy and constant silence. Gone are the days of sharp distinction between the hetero realm and "everybody else". Heck, it's the in-thing at BYU to be pro-gay, with all the cool kids having at least one LGBT friend. Even the struggles in the blogs have shifted from internal struggles and doctrinal questions to mostly outside battles (coming out, dealing with/bettering society, being a voice for others, etc)

     Also, the LDS LGBT contingent of which I'm aware has also become rather tame and non-threatening. A lot of them cling to God/spirituality and the hopes of having a Hallmark Card family with the spouse of their choice.  Instead of the bitterness and never-ending gloom, a new sense of optimism has taken hold. 

Friday, April 6, 2012

BYU Students: It Gets Better

BYU paraphernalia? Check?
Tons of BYU students coming out of the closet? Check.

Thursday, March 22, 2012

Invented Crises.

I'm gonna make an admission here: When I was in middle school, I was so desperate for folks to like me that I told a couple of folks that without their friendship, I'd have already killed myself. That was a total lie. I'm the kind of guy that would never dream of going that far. However, that lie got everybody feeling sorry for me...and I milked it for all it was worth. For about 2 years, I was guaranteed a seat in the "hip and cool folks" table because I conned a couple of them into believing that. However, I realised that doing so puts me at the mercy of others' pity and that meant I was subservient. 

When it hit me that those I considered "hip and cool" were really losers with no future in life, I decided to end contact with them and be real for once. That's why I always strive to be 100% ME and be as honest as I can be, at the risk of people hating me. I rather be hated for what I am, than tolerated for what I pretend to be. My advice is not to try and please people who've already decided not to like you for any reason. Nothing you do will change their minds. They're not worth your time and it will only lead to gigantic let-downs. 

Monday, March 19, 2012

Quick to friendship?

What bothers me tons is when people assign the word "friendship" to any kind of relationship in which the two parties involved have met each other in person less than 3 months before and have made mostly shallow interaction. That's not significant enough to assign the word "friendship". Most likely, you're a "glorified contact", nothing more. This is what I'd like to call the "cheapening" of friendship, where affection is given away wholesale without regard to depth and understanding.

Another big violation in my eyes is the constant focus on the word "love". It means what? I hate saying it, but it's thrown around much more than the pigskin in 5 NFL seasons. If you say you "love" someone in a context outside of jest, unless it's some dear family member or someone with whom you've grown together in a relationship of respect and meaning (be it a significant other or a real friend), it's frankly insulting to the intelligence.

I'm not anti-love or anti-friendship for that matter, I'm simply pro-sincerity.  

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Surrounded by idiots?

I often wonder the point of being nice to people when all your best efforts yield no fruit. I try talking to people and being pleasant and all I get is more of the same. I have about 3 friends within a 20 mile radius. Impressive, eh? Considering that number is actually lower than about 6 months ago, I think I see what's going on.

Well, a good part of it is that folks are so dang close-minded, and frankly, fake here. So many folks I've thought would make great pals have turned around and shoved the dagger behind me. It aggravates me. I try finding redeeming values for the people here...and that's harder than finding Charlie Sheen at a Mensa meeting, or the next Dalai Lama amongst the Spice Girls. It's really stunning when I realise that I've spent almost a year here and no progress have been made. I've -never- been one to have hatred until lately. I've had a happy childhood with parents who love me, but I cannot tolerate being treated like utter trash time and time again. It drives me sick, and I'm so much better than that. Self-esteem is always something that really delivers. If I had less of it, I'd be hating myself right now, so I'm extremely lucky and blessed.

For my dear readers who have been loyal to me for the last 2 or so years, you are all amazing folks. My advice to all of you guys is to remember who you are and never compromise your self-respect and your beliefs at any cost. I compromised and it has led down the path of hopelessness. So, to end this, to all my friends and family, no matter where you live, you mean something to me. For everybody else, I have nothing for you.

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Little Pleasures in Life.

I received an e-mail informing me about this short flick called, "The Wedding Dance". It shows a son who has immense love for his parents. It's rather touching. 

Please help the film-maker by donating even a $1 (the link is in the Youtube description). A new project is in the works, and they need your help!

Sunday, December 4, 2011

Baby Mania/Gay Spirituality

          It's total irony when I see that the bulk of the enthusiasm shown toward having children come from gay men as opposed to the straights, at least in my observation...and you know what? It makes sense. Maybe in the Mormon context in which I view things, this has relevance. A side-effect of the relentless cultural pressure to have children within Mormonism is that straight couples see children as an obligation rather than a treasure. Many gay men are especially deprived from cultural acceptance with having children from many angles. First, is the religious community tending to demonise them. Second, a negative association with pedophilia exists. Lastly, while many are willing to tolerate lesbians raising children, there isn't a similar tolerance toward homosexual guys. So, while many in the community choose not head down the fatherhood path, those who choose so tend to be passionate about it, most likely owing to a sense of holding dear something so elusive and universally maligned by our society.

             Likewise, an evident spirituality can be seen in many gay men who choose this part of their lives (a relationship to God/Higher Power) to keep intact.  To me, these guys are worthy of much respect. Once again, in the LDS context, spirituality for straight men is tied with privilege. Their rewards for spirituality are leadership positions, a hot trophy housewife (or 50, in the afterlife), and general praise within the conservative religious community.  No such comparable incentives for spirituality are available for gay men, so props to them! In many ways, though, I'm not shocked. Yeah, it's a pretty gross and stereotypical generalisation, but spirituality is more within the feminine domain, and many homos are in touch with it all. In all seriousness, when I hear a gay LDS man pray (and I say this with no condescension), I hear a soul calling out to a distant god in heaven to listen to him, which is actually kinda cute. When I hear a typical/douchey straight Mormon guy (NOT ALL STRAIGHTS, BTW) pray, it seems like he's simply having a conversation with a buddy from the bowling alley who's gonna give him an ace F-150 the next morning. 

Friday, November 4, 2011

A Few After-USGA Thursday Thoughts...

So, Carol Lynn Pearson came to the Y to speak. It was an enlightening experience to hear her perspectives about Mormonism and Sexuality.

Here are some bits from her fireside that stood out:

*We are all heroes on a path to find the elixir that heals all. What is that elixir? She never really specified what it is, but I personally think the journey is the elixir itself. Our journeys to gain respect, to find and give love, and to truly know who we are and our strengths are all what really matter in the end.
*We must be thankful for what we have today that many of our gay, lesbian, trans, queer, or bi brothers and sisters simply lacked. We have a society that is more open, understanding, and sympathetic. 
*What was really touching was her love of Christ...and all that He has done to reach out to each and every one of us, even if we ourselves think we are undeserving. 
*She also counseled us not to make "stupid" choices. Our religious beliefs may have evolved, but our common sense should still exist.
*We must make our voices heard, be it in the church, out of it, or in between. The world may be a scary place, but we can foster communication if we simply grow some balls and be brave.
*If we look back at all the mistakes we have made in shunning the vulnerable amongst us, we shall look back in shame.

Thursday, September 29, 2011


When one gets wrapped up in utter disdain for any fellow human being, we lose sense of what makes them tick, why they are what they are. It takes a big person to have the balls (or ovaries for the ladies amongst my readership) to forgive. 

Oftentimes, I've been so overcome with freedom in, at last, letting myself simply let go and start over. I've realised that there those with shittier lives than I do...and I shouldn't be so judgmental. 

Saturday, September 17, 2011

It doesn't take much.

The standards for happiness tend to be overly raised. I'm not gonna simplify things and say that the depths of sorrow are caused by the phenomenon of high expectations, but high expectations ain't exactly deterrents. The best moments in life come not in the big victories, but the little treasures we find in the sands of our experiences.  

1. I like coming up with unique ways of saying things. 
2. Humor is a big component of my life. I tend to be drawn to the cheesy as well as the exaggerated. It just works. 
3. I enjoy breaking social mores with the same enthusiasm in which I follow them. Those whom I'm around are key. 
4. Folks who know me well all have differing opinions of me. That chameleon side of me exists, for good or ill.
5. Be not scared of testing limits, defying expectations, and conquering stereotypes. You've got a it. 

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Utah v. Everywhere Else. (OKCupid answers)

Alright, so I compared the answers than those in Utah put against what I see from other places. There are some interesting patterns (none of this is scientific, so take this with a 300 ton grain of rock salt) that I see amongst the queers in Utah that look rather peculiar compared to the general population.

How do you feel about kids?
Those in Utah tend to answer that they "love kids" at a higher rate than anywhere else.

Would you consider roleplaying out a rape fantasy with partner who asked you to?
Those in Utah are MUCH, MUCH, MUCH more likely to say "no".

Your significant other is perfectly content with their minimum wage job and has no plans to look for more challenging/better paying work. Is this a problem?|
Utahns seem more likely to bail in this scenario than others.
How do you feel about age differences in relationships?
Utahns seem much more tolerant about age differences than the general population.

How do you think your sex drive compares to what is typical for other people of your age and gender?
There seems to be greater instances of "above average" in the Beehive State than what I observe elsewhere.

You're in a romantic relationship with someone you really like. As far as you're concerned, how long will it take before you'll have sex?
In the "mission field", it usually takes 6+, but the threshold is lower in Utah.

Other Notes:
*There is less propensity to like "cuddling" outside Utah and greater intolerance of cuddling between friends who are in relationships, but not with each other.
*There is greater propensity in the "mission field" of "replying selectively/very selectively" to messages...while Utahns tend to "reply often".
*Lower kinkiness to compensate for greater general sluttiness in Utah.

Friday, August 26, 2011