Monday, March 19, 2012

Quick to friendship?

What bothers me tons is when people assign the word "friendship" to any kind of relationship in which the two parties involved have met each other in person less than 3 months before and have made mostly shallow interaction. That's not significant enough to assign the word "friendship". Most likely, you're a "glorified contact", nothing more. This is what I'd like to call the "cheapening" of friendship, where affection is given away wholesale without regard to depth and understanding.

Another big violation in my eyes is the constant focus on the word "love". It means what? I hate saying it, but it's thrown around much more than the pigskin in 5 NFL seasons. If you say you "love" someone in a context outside of jest, unless it's some dear family member or someone with whom you've grown together in a relationship of respect and meaning (be it a significant other or a real friend), it's frankly insulting to the intelligence.

I'm not anti-love or anti-friendship for that matter, I'm simply pro-sincerity.  


Sulli said...

I get where you are coming from... Sort of... But at the same time you can't dictate to other people what they feel. Other people are quick to feel love for others. Other people are quick to feel friendship.

Its ok if it takes you longer to feel those things, but it does not always take others that long.

ControllerOne said...

Great post. I do agree with Sulli. Some people tend to feel affection, friendship and love rather quickly (that's me), some people take a very long time to get close, and some people (sadly) never seem capable of closeness.

On the other hand, I do believe people throw the terms "friend" and "love" around with a surprising casualness. I mean there is the joking type - I love ice cream, etc - but this is something different.

I don't know how insincere it is in most cases. Just often somewhat thoughtless or casual. I tend to feel close quickly, but I also only use such terms of endearment when I mean them.

I'm pro-sincerity too. Very much so.